Words on the page

The thing about being back in college in your fifties is that subjects you once avoided like a disease are suddenly not only doable, but enjoyable.  A former numberphobe, I nailed my History of Math course with an ‘A’ without an ulcer or tantrums or even swearing.  Now I’m taking on poetry, a writing discipline I’m most familiar with from a 6th grade dissection of The Road Not Taken, a trampling through the Romantics in high school, and an occasional haiku on a box of Celestial Seasonings tea.  So imagine my surprise when I immersed myself in the interpretation of contemporary American poetry and discovered it is actually a kick.

It helps that the period I’m working with includes the Beat poets like Lawrence Ferlinghetti and Allen Ginsberg.  Ground-breaking, ground-shaking stuff.  It was the poets who influenced the songwriters who really affected mainstream culture, artists like Bob Dylan and Joni Mitchell.  Poetry readings in the coffeehouses of New York and San Francisco in the fifties helped create the environment of personal reflection, social awareness, and protest that would explode in the next decade.  In addition to which many of the poems address the same issues we struggle with today, like the lightning passage of time, and the desire to leave our mark before the journey ends.

It isn’t only the middle-aged population that wrestles with the specter of aging.  A few months ago, 28-year-old Daughter observed on a subway platform at the Hunter College stop that she was the oldest one in sight.  In telling me this, her voice was edged with rueful amazement.  Son also remarked recently that the past couple of years had gone by at a much more rapid pace than when he was young.  He’s 26.

Here then is a lovely poem by Donald Justice straight from my poetry text.  It speaks to what we’ve just been speaking of, and it won’t hurt you at all to read.  Unlike the upcoming paper I’m writing on Sylvia Plath, which would probably have us all putting our heads in the oven like she did.

Men at Forty

Men at forty
Learn to close softly
The doors to rooms they will not be
Coming back to.

At rest on a stair landing,
They feel it
Moving beneath them now like the deck of a ship,
Though the swell is gentle.

And deep in mirrors
They rediscover
The face of the boy as he practices tying
His father’s tie there in secret.

And the face of that father,
Still warm with the mystery of lather.
They are more fathers than sons themselves now.
Something is filling them, something

That is like the twilight sound
Of the crickets, immense,
Filling the woods at the foot of the slope
Behind their mortgaged houses.

Daughter’s Featured Fotos mean whatever you want them to

crossed lines

crossed lines

bogart!

bogart!

cruise ship collection

cruise ship collection

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Have Faith

I never considered myself the type to have a personal fitness trainer.  I don’t know who exactly I envisioned as a candidate for one, outside of women in the Real Housewives strata and Linda Hamilton when she buffed up for Terminator 2.  I remember how unbelievably tough Hamilton looked in T2 doing chin-ups in her prison cell wearing sweatpants that couldn’t have been sexier if they were latex.  I also remember what a jerk of a husband/director she had at the time in James Cameron, who famously lost the directing Oscar this year to another ex-wife, Kathryn Bigelow.  Go team.

So here’s the thing:  my latest bone density test showed the onset of osteoporosis, or brittle bone disease.  This is sadly not uncommon in fifty-something women like me.  We’re all encouraged by our doctors and the pharmaceutical companies to make everything right with a pill, but rather than jump on the once-monthly Boniva bandwagon, I opted to build bone the old-fashioned way – with disciplined weight lifting and resistance training.  Where can you sign up, you ask?  Okay, easy now, one at a time.  The first thing you need is Faith.

Faith is a petite, green-eyed powerhouse of energy and motivation.  After years in the corporate world, she parted company with the 9 to 5 and began a fitness training business in her state-of-the-art home gym where Linda Hamilton would have no problem getting her sweat on.  Faith is professional, inspiring, and enviably toned.  Somewhere in her forties, she bikes 15 miles every morning before her first client shows up whining about their hectic day.  She sees each client in a private session with a custom-made workout routine.  Her gym has every piece of exercise equipment known to man or woman and a few she designed herself.  Every pulley and strap she has is killing me.

I don’t know how Faith responds to any of the other Lindas, but for me it’s Let’s Play Army.  Clearly she detected some military response in me from the start because if she says “Give me 20 calf lifts!” I’m on the sixteenth one before I even know I’m doing them.  My calves, however, know otherwise.  They start screaming with their little high-pitched calf muscle voices that five more and they’ll snap.  “Can you give me three more?” she calls out, and before I can answer she smiles maniacally and says, “Five!  Five is better.  You can give me five, right?  You have five in you?  Four, three, two, one.  Change legs!”  Which would be great if I could change legs with Linda Hamilton.

After two months of twice-weekly intense workouts, this is what I have learned.  Like everything important in life, exercise is a conscious commitment.  It is also one I have managed to avoid for many years by not lifting anything heavier than a laptop.  At the risk of sounding like some late-night, wild-eyed infomercial lady, challenging your body to perform has some startling results.  Listed briefly, they are:  1) increased energy for doing just about everything; 2) a sudden ability to wear clothes previously banished to the back of the closet; 3) an involuntary desire for an apple over an Oreo; 4) the satisfaction of seeing a goal move within reach; and most importantly, if perhaps not relevantly, the knowledge that I could hold my own in a prison riot.  I got your back too, Faith.

From our recent trip to Ireland, today’s Fotos say it’s all fun and games. . .

chess in the woods

chess in the woods

kidplay

kidplay

waiting for the troll

waiting for the troll

. . . until someone loses an eye

. . . until someone loses an eye

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Center Ground

The Woman found herself alone in her car, driving north, into the mountains.  She had to get away.  Away from her responsibilities, all begging attention.  Away from the crushing burst of family deaths, all gone now.  Just a couple of days.  Sunday of a holiday weekend, the air filled with grilling meat and frosty beer.  A warm holiday for May, unusually warm.

The Woman needed the quiet away from the city, away from the sales and movie openings and stuff to do.  She wanted Nothing. To. Do.  She drove for hours, her cell phone in the bottom of her purse, a silent fish, the ring shut out of it.

“More coffee, hon?”

The middle-years waitress smiled from under her upswept ‘do, a single blonde tendril on leave by her brow.

“Yes, thanks.  It’s such a beautiful day, isn’t it?”

“Haven’t seen a Memorial Day weekend like this one in a decade.  Feels more like Labor Day to me,” as she pulled the coffee pot away and turned back to the burner.  The Woman placed two dollars by her breakfast plate.

“Thanks, hon.  You enjoy the weekend now.”

Enjoy the photos, the Woman thought, the memories so fresh the pictures still breathed.  All happy faces, hers too, so excited at the Big Day.  Only she looked old, older than she remembered being.  The birthmark always invisible to her suddenly big and brown, like a third eye on her cheek.  Tired looking.  But no.  She just looked her age.

The Woman wandered into an antique shop.  On The Hill, the sign on the door announced.  A red door with gold trim.

“What does “Chick” stand for?” she asked the owner, pointing to a silver ID bracelet behind the glass.

“Don’t know.  I can’t recall how we came by that piece.  It’s been here a while.  Maybe a nickname.”  Then, with a glint, “Maybe a state of mind.”

Maybe, the Chick thought, as she tried it on for size and walked out into the May sun.

Daughter’s Featured Fotos are Thinking Philly

street scene

street scene

exposed but capped

exposed but capped

window box

window box

no worries

no worries

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Graduation Day

Daughter graduated yesterday with a dual Master’s degree from a legendarily progressive teachers’ grad school in upper Manhattan.  Graduations may just be my favorite things in the world and I previously wrote about Son’s and Daughter’s college graduations on these pages and will write about my own when it happens.  Husband and I planned to take the train into the city for the ceremony, but as the time approached I got a little hinky that we might run late, so I insisted we catch an earlier one which Husband was baffled but sweet and accommodating about.

That put us on the number 1 train from Penn Station going up toward the Bronx, except at 94th Street the announcement came on for everyone to get off and wait for the next train since the one we were on just changed from a local to an express.  My mind was racing that we were going to be delayed and I was so supercharged with anticipation and anxiety that a young woman standing way down the platform suddenly looked so much like Daughter I almost waved.  She glanced my way, this fetching brunette in a halter dress, and the resemblance stopped my heart until she raised her hand and waved with a big smile.  It was Daughter.

Fate had put us all on the same train and we sat arm in arm the rest of the way.  Except for Son, who can’t figure out why anyone with a car would take a train, so he’d be meeting us there with his father, my ex.  The ceremony was as rewarding as expected and the dinner we all shared afterward at Mama Mexico, complete with roving mariachi band, was perfect.  With hugs and kisses all around, we parted in the rain on 102nd Street for the trip home.

On the crowded railroad back to the suburbs, Husband and I shared facing bench seats with four young women who were nice enough to rearrange themselves to make room for us.  Because of the close proximity, it was impossible not to overhear their conversation, and now random particles of their verbal exchange rattle around in my brain mixed in with the words of wisdom and promise from the Grad School invocation.  All four of our seat mates were either in college or recent graduates.  Let’s call them Amber, Tiffany, Brittany and Madison.

A:  So I’m not even like showing yet but my cousin already gave me her bassinet.

T:  What’s a bassinet for anyway?  Like why not just get a crib?

B:  I think they stay in the bassinet in the beginning because they’re like so small.  Then when they’re like two years old you get the crib.

A statement like that required me to fully check out the players, so I turned to look at the four trendily dressed young women munching pretzel nuggets and competing for who could say the word “like” with the most repetition while imagining two-year-olds in bassinets.

M:  Did anyone like see the ads for Sex and the City 2?  It has them like riding camels in Egypt or something.

T:  I think it’s Abu Dhabi.

A:  Isn’t Abu Dhabi in Egypt?

M:  No, it’s the other way around.

B:  Wow, I had my big interview at that Ivy League grad school the other day and it was a disaster.

M:  What happened?

B:  In like the first minute I got asked to name ten of the most influential people of the 20th century and I said “Obama” and the interviewer said like “That would be the 21st century” and I was like, oh shit, what do I know about the 20th century?

T:  Really!  You were like, what, thirteen?

A:  Couldn’t you say like Britney Spears?  I mean it doesn’t have to be influential in a positive way, right?

B:  I know!  I was so going to say Hitler because he came to mind but I wasn’t sure so I said like Gandhi and Bill Clinton and Rosa Parks.

M:  Who?

B:  She had something to do with civil rights.  But then I couldn’t think of anyone else.  Really!  Ten people, right off the top of my head!  It was impossible.

M:  I so have to get away this weekend.  My boyfriend and I are going to Lake George.  Where exactly is Lake George?

I wanted to say “Abu Dhabi” but that would have been rude.  Though they would have probably, like, thanked me for the information.

Daughter’s Fotos show teamwork at the Welling Court Community Mural Project in Queens

graduation 1 5_28familyart

family art

graduation 2 5_28gettingourpainton

getting our paint on

graduation 3 5_28RonEnglish

Ron English

graduation 4 5_28gears

gears

graduation 5 5_28Veng

veng

CONGRATULATIONS DAUGHTER!!!

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It’s All Green

Whenever Husband and I visit another country, we return with a taste of what the people are about after a week of personal observation.  And it’s an impression we usually agree on.  For the Italians, it was their sense of style.  On the dreariest early morning train platform in Florence, we were amazed at how effortlessly put together the commuters looked.  Fabulous scarves thrown askew, leather satchels hanging from gloved hands, languid postures leaned against tile walls reading carelessly folded newspapers; the Italian people look gorgeous even with wildly untamed eyebrows and wind-blown hair.  Whether they spend meaningful time on it or not, their layers of clothing and casual cosmopolitan manner works.  They are elegant.

The Irish have an elegant spirit.  The clothing layers not so much, and the wind-blown hair looks wind blown.  Their beauty emanates from the collective soul of the Irish people, their way of looking sideways at the world around them with a bemusement that is palpable and touching.  The traffic signs on their screamingly narrow two-way roads warn of “acute bends” up ahead.  These are obviously Gaelic words that can be translated into English as “Aiiieeeeee!”  Likewise the reassuring “calming traffic” notices that mean “Ahhhhhhhh” and come with a deep exhale and possible change of underwear.  I don’t know the statistics on vehicular accidents or injuries, especially in light of the ubiquitous pubs and high speed limit on almost all roads in the Republic, but we never saw police cars issuing tickets or fender-benders on the side of the road.  Perhaps because the roads have no sides to stop on.  Or just as likely due to the invincible luck of the Irish in all matters of life and divine fate.

There is a sweetness of expression evident in even the most everyday verbal exchange.  We walked into a pub in Blessington on our drive of the Military Road, but departed after a brief look at the menu.  It was standard pub fare and we were looking for something a bit different.  But there was nothing in town that suited us better so we went back to the first place.  As we walked through the door, the server who’d shown us the menu gave us a bright smile and sang out, “Ah, so you’ve returned to me!  Come take a seat.”  The food was nothing special, as the menu had suggested, but the atmosphere was warm and we felt welcome.  As it turns out, feeling welcome in Ireland is what it’s all about.

In New York, “brilliant” and “gorgeous” sound pretentious.  And the way we say them, they are.  But an older Dublin woman being served a bowl of sweet potato soup and brown bread exclaiming, “Oh my, this is gorgeous!” is nothing short of charming.  Or a clerk looking to sell us an umbrella on a rainy day offering a sincere “Brilliant!” when we show that we have one.  A lost sale isn’t brilliant and there’s nothing gorgeous about orange soup, unless you look beneath the surface and see the twinkle behind those Irish eyes.

Today’s Fotos show street scenes in Dublin, including the Famine Memorial.  Originally commissioned for display in Boston, Rowan Gillespie’s bronze statues were deemed too depressing by Boston’s mayor so they remain standing, with true Irish irony, by the docks in Dublin.

rent-a-ride

rent-a-ride

human statue on grafton street

human statue on grafton street

energetic busker

energetic busker

remembering the Great Famine of the 1840s

remembering the Great Famine of the 1840s

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Links Fahren

Which means fasten seat belts.  Consider this your lesson in Gaelic, or “Why are all these cars driving toward me in my lane?”  The answer is IT ISN’T YOUR LANE.  You are in Ireland, or “Opposite Driving World,” and don’t let the fact that the parked cars are pointed in every possible direction persuade you that any of the roads are one-way.  They are not.  They are ‘shared’.  In the greenest, friendliest, most lyrical place on earth, our goal is not to die on foreign soil in a rented car.

We are staying in Enniskerry, a picturesque village of about 2600 residents 15 miles south of Dublin.  Town center consists of a village square, or actually a circle, because the Irish love to do things their way.  The only place in Enniskerry that serves a full breakfast, lunch, and a lovely cappuccino is called Poppies.  There may be better reasons to cross the Atlantic than a fruit scone at Poppies but I can’t think of one offhand.

The proprietor is a charmingly caustic man with a striking resemblance to a young Johnny Carson.  Husband and I staggered into Poppies our first day in Ireland after driving the impossible winding road into Enniskerry.  We had crushing jet lag and a determination to stay awake until nightfall to get adjusted to the time difference.  We stood at the counter facing the sign that said “Order at the counter and then sit down” and asked the owner, “Do we sit down or order first?”  Johnny diagnosed us swiftly and deadpanned, “Well, if you sit down first you’ll be disappointed when I’ve made nothing to serve you.”  Husband and I looked at each other like, “Huh?”

The following day, fully rested and much smarter, we returned to Poppies for scones, espresso, and directions to nearby Bray.  Equipped as we were with our Dan Dooley Auto Rental, the tour books nevertheless advised against driving in Dublin.  Our experience thus far with Enniskerry’s narrow, twisting roads left us true believers of that advice.  We decided to drive to the nearest train station and travel in to Dublin safely.  Since the closest stop on the transit line was Bray, we asked Johnny for directions.  If it was anything like Enniskerry, we’d enjoy exploring it a bit.

JOHNNY:  You don’t want to go to Bray.

HUSBAND:  Why not?

JOHNNY:  That depends.  Are you planning to get out of your car?  Because I wouldn’t recommend it.  And come home before dark.

OSV:  We just want to catch the train to Dublin.

JOHNNY:  In that case, take the bendy road down to the other side until you cross over the Upper Dargle.

OSV:  Is there a Lower Dargle?

JOHNNY:  Do you want to get there or not?

HUSBAND:  I don’t think we’ll get there from what you’re telling us.  What’s the name of the bendy road?

JOHNNY:  The Bendy Road.  You’ve been on it.  What would you call it?

HUSBAND:  Will it take us to Bray?

JOHNNY:  All the roads here lead to Bray.  And none lead out.

OSV:  Could we spend a day there?

JOHNNY:  Don’t know why not.  I spent half my life there.

HUSBAND:  Can you suggest anything to do in Bray?

JOHNNY:  Leave.

Sunday in Dun Laoghaire and Bray

bray boardwalk

bray boardwalk

sunday in dun laoghaire (pronounced dunleary)

sunday in dun laoghaire (pronounced dunleary)

beach at bray

beach at bray

irish breakfast at dun laoghaire farmer's market

irish breakfast at dun laoghaire farmer’s market

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Son and Daughter: The Early Years

In spite of the tremendous verbal talents of each of my children, they were both late talkers.  Daughter barely spoke at all until she hit two years of age, and then said a complete sentence out of the blue.  After I tucked her in one night and was leaving her room, this little Alvin and the Chipmunks voice rang out in the dark:  “Please close the door.”  I spun around, straining to see the invisible voice hanging in the air.  “Mommy, the door,” it squeaked again, and I numbly pulled the door closed as I crossed the threshold.  I stood outside her room thinking, What the hell just happened?  We went from “ball” and “shoe” and “daddy” to detailed exit instructions?  Daughter awoke in the morning with a 5000 word vocabulary and never looked back or took a single breath between sentences.

Son, who arrived two years and change later, was silent to the point that my father once clapped his hands behind his grandson’s head and waited for him to react.  I asked, “What are you doing?”  My father looked at me concerned and said, “I’ve never heard him say a single word.  Have you had his hearing checked?”  I told my dad that if family history was any indication, in a couple of months he’d be saying, “Would someone please pass me the sports section?  I’m dying over here with these strained peaches.”  And that’s pretty much the way it turned out.

The tradeoff to all the quiet was that both Son and Daughter were very early walkers.  Apparently they put their creative energy into movement rather than narration.  They were each 7 pounds and 21 inches at birth, and were both walking professionally at ten months of age.  Daughter was a particularly singular sight to see because at a year old she only weighed sixteen pounds, but was taller than the average toddler.  She flew across the room like a silent, springy Gumby.

Son was more stealth than swift.  His room was added on off the kitchen with the result being I could see him through the window over the sink while I washed the dishes, unless he was asleep in his crib which was just under the ledge.  One night, I looked up from the sink and his face was right across from mine on the other side of the glass.  I screamed.  He just stared at me, his little hands holding onto the frame as he balanced on the window sill.  Another time I looked all over the apartment for him and was starting to panic when Daughter called out excitedly, “I found him!”  I ran into the kitchen and followed her gaze up to where Son was perched on top of the refrigerator, his legs sticking straight out over the freezer.  Spider-Baby.

For a while, they were an actual comedy team as Daughter responded verbally when Son was asked a question.  I would say to one-year-old Son, “Do you want some more cereal?”  And he would look at his sister and she would say, “He’s full.”  It was even more hilarious when other people were around.  One day at my friend betty’s, whose basement was playground to all the neighborhood children, there was a loud ruckus and about eight kids suddenly appeared in the living room in various degrees of upset.  betty held up her hand and said, “One person!  I want one person to tell me what happened.”  Toddler Son stepped forward, bounced a ball off his forehead, then pointed to two other boys and one of their sisters while making a sad face.  Daughter said, “My brother says that Neil and Evan were throwing the ball and it accidentally hit Tara in the head and she started crying.”  Truer tale was never told.

Daughter’s Featured Fotos go Linear

dark clouds triptych

dark clouds triptych

HOW auction for orphans

HOW auction for orphans

detention anyone?

detention anyone?

LA II police shield

LA II police shield

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All Aboard the Diversity Express

I recently attended a Diversity Residency offered by my college.  It was a weekend of exploration into the ways in which the landscape of our country has changed in response to immigration from an ever increasing number of countries.  Be it for economic opportunity, political freedom, or to join family members already here, the United States has become host or home to new racial and ethnic groups in unprecedented numbers over the last decade alone.  The meaning of what it is to be an American is changing even as you read this.

The residency workshops addressed many aspects of diversity such as gender issues, the distribution of power, people with disabilities, and the expression of diversity in literature and art.  But the elephant in the room was clearly race.  This is where America has drawn its line right from the beginning.  From childhood on, our history books tell tales of brave explorers sent forth by adventurous monarchs to discover new worlds; of pioneering men and women enduring treacherous journeys to settle the West; of our nation’s founders risking life and limb to ensure prosperity, security, and justice for all.  Nowhere did we learn of the rich and harmonious life of the Native Americans wiped out by all this adventure.  In a 1995 biography, John Wayne was quoted as saying, “I don’t feel we did wrong in taking this great country away from them.  There were great numbers of people who needed new land, and the Indians were selfishly trying to keep it for themselves.”  Or just survive without being obliterated.

Slavery followed early American expansion and we all know how that turned out.  The Harlem Renaissance of the ‘20s and ‘30s featured brilliantly talented black musicians and singers who performed for white audiences in clubs they themselves could not get served a drink in.  In the ‘50s and ‘60s the terms “block busters” and “white flight” referred to the migration of blacks into primarily white neighborhoods causing the residents to flee further into the suburbs.  Early reports on the 2010 census say the results will show that for the first time, more African-Americans live in the suburbs than in core cities.  The 2000 census showed that fact to already be true of Hispanics and Asians.

Acceptance isn’t enough.  It needs to be tempered with sensitivity, awareness, and a willingness to engage.  The lexicon is always changing and it’s easy to insult out of ignorance.  Hispanic, Latino, Spanish, Puerto Rican, Mexican – every ethnic group no matter how they refer to themselves has an individual pride in its own heritage just as everyone’s ancestors did, no matter how long you’ve been here or where your forefathers came from.  Ellis Island tells powerful stories.  We repeat them with pride, just as the American-born children of today’s immigrants will repeat theirs.

Most of the people I knew from my neighborhood are long gone, replaced by others who look nothing like them.  They wear burkhas, saris, ethnic prints.  They speak a panorama of languages.  And like all neighbors, they smile, they wave, they apologize if their children ride their bikes onto my lawn.  They pick up after their dogs or they don’t.  Nothing really new; nothing really so different.

I didn’t get my customary A on the residency paper.  It was too personally reflective and didn’t reference the required text enough.  Perhaps because I was too busy being personally amazed at how much I had to learn and did learn as a result of my studies.  It doesn’t have to be hard to accept that the town you grew up in is now shared by people who seem foreign in their beliefs, customs, and practices.  They are foreign.  For now.  The easy thing to remember is that unless your name is Eaglefeather or something like it, at one time we were ALL foreigners.

Daughter’s Fotos visit art galleries, street fairs, and city views

kenji nakayama

kenji nakayama

ghost girl ice sculpture

ghost girl ice sculpture

perry street fair: characters abound

perry street fair: characters abound

loft view

loft view

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A Thousand Words

The very sweet-natured uncle who I’ve been looking after in his nursing home died yesterday at 85.  He never had children of his own, and although you wouldn’t have known it even if you knew him, his marital adventures were out of Days of Our Lives meets Bridezilla, which I wrote about a bit here in This Call May Be Used For Training Purposes.  Anyway, I’m feeling a little fragile and frayed since this uncle was the last of my elder blood relatives and his passing truly signifies the end of an era for our family.  I was also his main caretaker outside of the nursing home and although he didn’t say much, I will miss his impish smile and gentle spirit.

I’m giving the page over to Daughter’s Featured Fotos today with a selection that celebrates Spring and the City.  I will be back on the 12th with a full entry.  See you then.

thousand 1 5_8tristaneaton

that’s harsh

thousand 2 5_8bluebrooklyn

blue brooklyn

thousand 3 5_8bikecrew

bike crew

thousand 4 5_8campingoutforhanson1

camping out for hanson! really!

thousand 5 5_8shepardfaireyonwooster

shepard fairey on wooster street

thousand 6 5_8dusk

dusk

thousand 7 5_8worldfamous

personal ad

thousand 8 5_8streetvendornearthebrooklynbridge

street vendor near the bklyn bridge

thousand 9 5_8nightlights

nightlights

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At the sign post up ahead, the AARP Zone

I just cruised up to my 56th birthday, the sixes always seeming like the other side of a grandiose milestone.  Like the olive left in the bottom of a martini or the pie crust after all the filling is gone.  A six always signifies another milestone is lurking in the dark up ahead, so it seemed fitting that our family dinner to celebrate my birthday happened on the last night of my 55th year.

Son picked Daughter up in the city and we met at our favorite sushi place, our family setting for countless celebrations amid shrimp tempura and pinwheels of beef negimaki.  Husband and I had just booked a rather spontaneous vacation and were eager to tell the kids about it.  We had been talking about driving across Pennsylvania to Pittsburgh.  I’m not sure why we would be doing that, but Husband said he’d never been to Pittsburgh and I had to confess that I hadn’t either.  Then the other night he asked out of the blue, “What about Ireland?  Would you rather go there?”  And I thought, hmmm, Pittsburgh, Ireland, Pittsburgh, Ireland.  That’s a tough one.

DTR:  Wow, Ireland; that is so amazing.  What made you pick Ireland?

OSV:  We can always go to Pittsburgh.

The kids looked at each other.

DTR:  Whatever that means.

OSV:  Do you want me to explain?

SON:  I’m indifferent.

We came to gift opening time, and as always, Husband nailed my style with beautiful freshwater pearls on a gold chain.  Daughter hit another bullseye with a way cool bakelite bracelet and hoop earrings.  She also presented Husband with some made to order dark chocolate in anticipation of his birthday later in the month.  Son picked up the check and we were all feeling splendid.

HUSBAND:  Everyone ready to go or should we sit a little longer?

SON:  I’m indifferent.

OSV:  Is that the word of the day, indifferent?

DTR:  No, the word of the day is farce.  He said it about ten times in the car on the way here.  “That’s a farce,”  “What do you think this is; a farce?”  Like that.

SON:  (turning to me)  You said a great word earlier.  Spry.  Excellent usage.

OSV:  Thanks.  I’m a big fan of words that somehow evoke their meaning.  Personally, I like facetious.  Try saying it without sounding facetious.

We all practiced facetious.

SON:  You know what I like?  Words that can go either way, like breathtaking.  People think you’re reacting positively when you say breathtaking, but you could really mean something totally different.

DTR:  Outrageous is like that.

SON:  I love outrageous.

As we left the restaurant, I thanked everyone for my gifts and we all thanked Son for treating us to dinner.

Daughter leaned in to Husband and me as we walked to the cars.

DTR:  Perfect timing on the thank you.  I thanked him for the ride here and he said, “What took you so long?  We parked ten minutes ago.”

We always try to be spry with the thank you.

Daughter’s Featured Fotos run The Gamut

imminent disaster bird quilt

imminent disaster bird quilt

anthony lister, lyons wier gallery

anthony lister, lyons wier gallery

easter dog

easter dog

shadows in israel

shadows in israel

Note to Son:  Yummy thanx for the Edible Arrangements delivery waiting by the door when we got home.  It was breathtaking (in a good way).

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